40 Years Old, Pregnant: Eating Clean and Working-out – My Journey to a Peaceful Pregnancy and a Home Birth

 
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Yep…yep…yep.  Isn’t it typical?  You lose 70 lbs., and you find yourself pregnant.  At least, that’s where I found myself mid-July.  Now, I am not going to even talk about the psychology of being in the middle of a huge weight loss journey – and finding yourself pregnant.  It’s devastating to say the least.  You go from mourning the loss of the body you might have had to finding love for the baby you will have, and finally starting on a personal mission on finding ways to stay in shape so as to keep both me and my growing baby healthy.  Personally, I was in denial for about 10 weeks.

 

The 4th and FINAL (really, this time) Pregnancy Mission

I have some challenges for this pregnancy – and this was one reason I was hesitant to have another baby (mainly based on pure laziness).  I mean, my blood pressure was way low for me, and why would I want to mess with that?  Why add a baby to the equation and dredge up the mess?  Of course, since I do everything the hard way…  I have a very strong family history of high blood pressure – and I have my own history of high blood pressure.  You can even read about it here.  I have worked so hard to get not only my weight down, but cut down my blood pressure (which were proportionally linked).  Whew, I must tell you how happy I am to have started when I did.  High blood pressure in pregnancy is no small deal.  It’s actually very dangerous and can be deadly if it is uncontrolled and not followed.

I have been extremely fortunate that I did start my exercise and eating program 6 months prior to my positive pregnancy test.  My body was already used to the rigors of consistent daily exercise, and though my hard work and sweat,  My blood pressure was lowered by 30-40 points..  I had weaned myself off of medication.  All these things are good.  However, I still have a history, and for an avid homebirther that believes in evidence based care – doesn’t make for a peaceful pregnancy – or so I thought.

 

My First and Last Trip to an OB

Yeah.  Maryland is very natural birth unfriendly – to an annoying degree.  They push all of the legal homebirth midwives underground to cut down on choice in birth.  So, long story short, I had to go mainstream so that I could use my insurance for the prenatals.  Not my ideal, or my idea of having a peaceful pregnancy – but I really did try to go with it.

It was a disaster.  I was at odds with everyone.  We just didn’t see eye to eye.  It was their opinion that I was going the medical route, and should freely consent to all of the unnecessary tests and interventions that they wanted to perform.  I was of the opinion that it was my body and my baby, and I was free to choose, based on evidence, which of any tests or procedures I would endure – which ended up being none.   I had decided before going there that I wasn’t going to go through any unnecessary testing and I told them so.  I had done the research, because they had already stigmatized me due to my weight, my race and my age.

I do understand that books have been written by the association of Gynaecology and Obstetrics, but my book hadn’t been written – the book of Lisa Nelson.  I’m was coming to them in the best shape of my life, and they want to spew negative things at me, like I’m going to get this and that.   Please.  The last straw was when they asked me if I wanted to  be permanently sterilized.  I looked at them cross-eyed.  If I wanted a major operation, don’t you think I would have volunteered that information?  As far as I have heard, people who get c-sections are the best candidates for tube tieing, because the belly is already open.

Um…I’m not getting sectioned.  I am having a peaceful pregnancy and natural birth.

I don’t know what’s wrong with them.  I walked out of there and haven’t been back.

See ya!

 

Making My Own Peace

One thing I learned fairly quickly is that I have to make my own peace.  I had to connect with my own women wisdom – which is always right.  I have been fortunate to have had 3 wonderful homebirth experiences have had learned a lot from the midwives and doulas.  I haven’t always been in the best shape, but I have always taken care of myself in pregnancy – even if I didn’t take care of myself normally and had wonderful outcomes.  So I channeled that.  This is how I make my own peace…

  • Continue with the strenuous daily exercise.  My body has held up – as it should.  I started it prior to the pregnancy so my body was very used to it.
  • Continue with the clean eating – increasing significantly the my protein and salt intake.  I continued with Shakeology and the whole fruits an veggies.
  • Find a care giver that will work with me and my body to achieve my goals.  One who actually cares about what I want.
  • Visualize a positive birth outcome – home water birth.
  • Find a midwife who will work with me to perform my home water birth.

So, I did all of that – and that’s where I found my peaceful pregnancy.  My outlook is extremely positive.  My blood pressure is fabulous.  I am enjoying the exercise, I am enjoying the way I feel and the positivity that it gives me.  I am looking forward to birthing the baby in a very peaceful and loving way.

 
 
 

Have you had a time where you had to make your own peace?  I would love to hear about it.

 

Lisa
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  1. LOVE this story! So proud of you for making your own leave, for doing what’s right for you and your family, for sticking to your guns about your beliefs! I love it so much when I hear about a woman advocating for herself, especially during pregnancy and in planning for birth. It’s so important, Especially in today’s medicalized society.

    Here’s to the rest of a great pregnancy! Congratulations on this pregnancy too, by the way! šŸ™‚
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  2. Lisa, I’m so glad your so positive and doing so well! I hope that you have a safe birth and healthy pregnancy. You should check out the book Trim Healthy Mama, they have a website as well. They promote healthy eating and exercise through pregnancy and have had a lot of women be successful without gaining the weight back while pregnant and losing it quickly afterwards. Also, their recipes are delicious! P.S. I’m not a spokeswomen for them!
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  3. Reading this post, I’m in awe of what a strong woman and mother you are. Thanks for sharing this inspiring story. And congratulations on your healthy, peaceful pregnancy!
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  4. I wish you the best of luck and congrats on the baby and sticking to what you want.
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  5. Hello Lisa, you’re a strong, wise woman who knows her own mind. I admire you for that. I wish you all the best throughout your pregnancy and journey. šŸ˜€ xx
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  6. So happy for you (although I am sure it was hard in the middle of your weigh loss project) but like you said you can continue to exercise since you have been doing it. My younger sister is expecting and see a high risk doctor and is a state of sheer terror. I think that stinks since women should enjoy pregnancy.
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    • Yeah Ann, that is really too bad. Not sure why she is high risk, but you really have to stick up for yourself. Every time I go to the midwife, we are at constant odds. I walk-in yesterday and she starts harping on me about my age and my blood pressure history. She pulls out all the scare tactics and proceeds to tell me that I need to go to a high risk doctor. Then I began questioning. 1. Is my uterus growing normally. Answer: Yes, it seems bigger than it should be. response: Well, according to my research blood pressure babies (or if my placenta wasn’t working effectively) are smaller. So, this would indicate that my placenta is working perfectly. Her response: but we have to make sure.

      Fine. I told you I am open to getting the 20 week ultrasound. But not at a high risk doctor. He’s going to use coercion to pressure me into unnecessary and stressful testing, genetic testing, etc. That will get my blood pressure in a boil. He’s going to pull out all the tactics. It’s just going to make me angry and I am not going through that. How about we use an independent sonographer to take the sonogram. If there is something amiss, then we will go from there. If it’s fine, then leave me alone – and stop buggin’

      So I used common sense and then offered a solution that we could both be agreeable to. However, in order to do this, you have to know what your talking about and know what your options are. Maybe something like this would work for your sister? It really depends upon the situation…what’s going on, etc. But doctors are really really really difficult to deal with – if even impossible.
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  7. All this time of following you and this is the first time I’ve realized you’re from Maryland. I am too! My closest friend here gave birth to her two children at home and does a lot of volunteer work to raise money and awareness about women’s rights when it comes to the choice of homebirth here in Maryland. I’ll forward her blog to you. We’re from around Baltimore. Wishing you the best with your fourth and final child. And good for you for taking care of your health.
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  8. Hi Lisa,
    Wow, what a powerful post. I love your honesty. I think through writing this post you give a lot people permission to admit that their feelings about their pregnancy can be very complicated. The media and world at large love a pregnant mom as long as they follow the ‘rules’. You are a powerful , independent woman, on your 4th pregnancy . You know what you need and want and what works for you. And you have found ways to be peaceful with your decisions, with your body and with this new baby! Looking forward to hearing more and sending you love.
    Gilly
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  9. It sounds like it must have been quite an adjustment to learn you were pregnant when you were in the midst of your weight-loss journey, but it sounds like you are in a very healthy place to start out this pregnancy! Even though I didn’t have a homebirth, I did go the natural route with an OB. Thankfully I live in an area that is very natural birth/midwife-friendly, but I understand that a lot of the country isn’t like that which can be very frustrating. Wishing you all the best on this journey!
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  10. I’ve been away too long – I didn’t know you were pregnant – congratulations!!! I’m glad you have found your peace and I’m so happy for you and wishing you well.
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