On the College Track – The Reasons I Homeschool My Children

 
My reasons for homeschooling for college

 

There are a lot of reasons people choose to homeschool their children – probably just as many reasons as people who homeschool.  It’s a really personal, and in some instances, decision deep-rooted in faith.

I participated in a twitter chat on homeschool and was enlightened by the general population (at least the ones on twitter) and what they thought about homeschooling.  WOW.  Honestly, I was quite taken aback at the hostility towards families who homeschool.  Really?  Why should anybody care how you school or unschool your child?  There were comments ranging from  – it’s the homeschool communities fault that the public school system is falling apart, because those parents are not fighting for the betterment for all (which I thought was quite special) – all the way to – only radical religious nuts homeschool in order to control their kids, to brainwash them, and to make pods of themselves.

So, I thought I would write a post, from a real person, about the reasons I homeschool my children.

 

Fictitious Reasons

  • I’m a religious nut.  I do believe in God.  However, our belief in God goes way beyond school.  We go to church and we live it in our daily life.  I don’t necessarily choose Christian Curriculum or talk about God in school at all.  I choose the best curriculum that I believe will work for my children the best. I do think diversity is important and make multiculturalism at the forefront of our curriculum. Not everyone looks the same or believes the same things. However, we must all live together peacefully.
  • I want to keep them away from society.  Well, if that were the case, I am doing a really poor job at homeschooling.  My kids attend weekly classes, playgroups, church, swimming lessons, karate group lessons and boy scouts.  We play at the park with other children.  They play with the other kids in the neighborhood.
  • You want to shield your children against all pain.  Well, who wouldn’t?  Really?  Who wants to see their kids belittled, bullied, harassed, and made fun of in school?  Actually I can’t think of any parent.  Likewise, I can’t think of one person that thinks this kind of treatment is conducive to learning.  If anything, it does the exact opposite.  Sorry that I believe in positive parenting.  That kids don’t need rewards or punishments to thrive in an academic environment.  However, my children get plenty of socialization with all different kinds of kids.  Guess what?  If those kids are disrespectful, out of control, mean or bullies in school – chances are, they are going to be the same way at the pool, at the library, at church, on the playground, in karate and everywhere else they go in their daily lives.  It’s not like their mannerisms/personality/characteristics change when they walk outside the door of their school at 3:30 PM.    So, yes, we don’t deal with them at school.  We get them elsewhere, and we discuss daily how to deal with them in a respectful manner, even though they do not treat us respectfully.

 

The Reasons I Homeschool My Children

  • Education.  Each child is so different in their needs, abilities, skills.  Just in my kids, I can see the different learning styles.  How could a one size fits all approach be to the benefit of everyone?  For me, the biggest benefit of homeschooling is to be able to cater the curriculum, activities, etc to fit the needs to my individual child – for the purpose of enhancing their experience, developing a love for learning – creating a positive learning environment.  The purpose is generating success – and driving them to the ultimate goal – the natural desire for more advanced education.
  • I have control over the curriculum.  My son was having a hard time writing.  After some research, I decided to teach him cursive.  I bought a book and we went on our way.  In less than a year – my sons confidence, print and cursive skills had increased tremendously.  What would it have served him to force him to learn in a way that didn’t work for him?  He would have given up.  My kids are different.  One needs a little more attention in math and is a wiz at grammar and writing and the other needs more attention with the phonics/writing and is a wiz at math.  How could one curriculum or way of teaching benefit them both?
  • I can teach in a positive way without competition.  Not a way that destroys.  For me, it’s important to instill a real love for learning – not for competition and a desire to beating another one out.
  • Real learning.  It’s key.  The desire to fully understand – not a method to spit back on a test…but real understanding of a topic.

 

Homeschooling on the College Track

I have been told that I am rare in assuming that my kid will go to college.  I’m not ashamed that I want my kids to go to a good college.  How could I not?  I went to Smith.  My sister went to Bowdoin.  We both got so much out of it.  Not only education, but also the intellectual stimulation from people from all different walks of life, backgrounds, talents,  and thought.  The scholarly “bouncing off of ideas” and the intellectual exchange  is what’s college is about.  unfortunately, a lot of people don’t get that college is no longer a meal ticket.  Just because you have a degree doesn’t mean you are guaranteed a job.  It’s a time to explore your interests in-depth, gain new interests, make new friends, have life experiences that you wouldn’t normally have.  All these things, contribute to a more diverse, well thought, adaptable, stimulated, and resourceful person. Out of college and graduate school I could have pursued cellular biology – sure.  But with my education, I was able to be a successful wedding planner (imagine that), real estate assistant, freelancer, mom and more.  I was more marketable in more than my area of expertise.

In this day and age, it’s about adaptability.

 
 
 
So, for you homeschoolers out there, what are the real reasons you homeschool?

 

Lisa
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  1. I agree with these as they are much the same as mine. I love how you put “If those kids are disrespectful, out of control, mean or bullies in school – chances are, they are going to be the same way at the pool, at the library, at church, on the playground, in karate and everywhere else they go in their daily lives.” So true, they get it everywhere, it isn’t limited to a school building for sure. Just came across your blog and look forward to reading more!
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  2. I loved reading this post, about your ideas re homeschooling towards college. And this thought–In this day and age, it’s about adaptability. Absolutely! So many benefits from going to college! And you went to Smith, wow, that is quite a school. My “kid” is at her college, as I am writing this, they have a bunch of first week events, so she will be home late tonight, and I am so glad that she has this college opportunity. Thanks for the feature, too, on the #homeschool linkup. It was nice to meet you!

  3. It is frightening how hostile people are about homeschooling, isn’t it? My daughter would not be the child she is today, had I forced her to stay in the public school system, which was destroying who she was (a happy, overly creative kid who loves to learn). Thankfully, we found a great fit now, that is within the school system – but I wasn’t sure that was a possibility at one point. If we lived somewhere else that didn’t have this school as an option, we would still be traditional homeschooling.
    It is funny b/c she’s actually in a cyber school which many parents who come from public school consider homeschooling – I guess it is but when you come from traditional homeschooling where you are responsible for the curriculum choices and, well, everything, it doesn’t feel like homeschooling to me – other than she is at home a few days a week. Perspective changes everything, doesn’t it?

    Now the college thing… I’m not sold on it, but I’m not against it either. I have a degree, hubby does not. He has a great job that he loves now. I also left school mid-way and went back with renewed purpose. KNOWING why I wanted to be there made all the difference. I guess I’m not sold on going just to go and rack up student loans but if you know why you are there and you have a career that needs it – woo hoo! That is the ticket and the best way to go to college.

    LOVE YOUR POST, Lisa! There are days I wish we were still traditional homeschooling. You just have to figure out the “least worst option sometimes.” Have you read that article… it got me through making some tough decisions… it is on the Hoagies website.
    Things are getting calmer here and I hope to visit more often – yippee!
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    • It’s crazy, because homeschooling is the one thing that you can do that doesn’t impact anyone else. I just don’t know what the deal is.

      For me, college has more to do with getting a good job that pays good money. It’s about fulfillment. It’s about being able to adapt to a changing world. The ability to change and still be a professional is key – especially when you want to move up.
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  4. I don’t see a downside to homeschooling. If I could afford it I would, but for now school is the daycare I need to be able to work enough to pay for food and utilities. I’d love to get to a point financially that I could homeschool my daughter and travel with her.

    I think the people who get riled up against it are people who are generally hung up on labels, who need everyone to fit neatly into boxes. When I hear people talk about the kids they knew growing up who were homeschooled and seemed to be really strange I chalk it up to statistics. Homeschooled or not, there will be a percentage of kids/families that seem strange to you, for their beliefs, customs, whatever. We’re not all alike – and that’s a good thing!
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  5. I came across your post on the Mommy Monday Blog Hop, and I’m so glad I did! I agree there are as many reasons to homeschool as there are homeschoolers. It used to bother me when people would ask if I was homeschooling because I want to shelter my kids from the world. Now I just reply with a smile, and say “No, just from intolerance and ignorance from people like you.” I figure if they can be judgmental then they won’t mind if I am. hehe 🙂
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  6. I think as long as you and yoru children are happy and they are learning, what difference does it make, Right? I know you go above and beyond with your kids and they will truly prepared for whatever is out there.
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  7. I agree, every family should educate their children the way they see fit.
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  8. Lisa,
    I dropped of the planet for a while, but I am back. Homeschooling takes a lot of time:).
    I love this. I am a college bound, homeschooling mom too. We have 5 boys and we train them as though they are headed to college. Actually, we have one half way through college. His success in school is a direct result of teaching him to be an independent, motivated learner who LOVES to read. The only skill we did not really press, was regretfully organization. Poor kid…
    We have cranked up that area for our other 4 boys and it is amazing to see even the 9 year old take charge of his learning…
    Awesome!
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