This has been weighing heavily on my mind recently. Everywhere I go, it seem that like there is competition
- Boy scouts. In the pinewood derby, the kids make cars and race against EACH OTHER
- At Church – The most reverent kid sits in the first chair, and the least reverent kid sits in the last chair. Each kid knows exactly where they stand. It’s there for everyone to see. If you’re sitting in the last chair, it’s not feeling too good. However, if you are bold enough, or know enough answers, you can move-up (at the expensive of someone who then moves down).
- Even at the end of the year cub scout banquet, the kids are asked to make a unique (blue and gold) cake to enter into what? Yet another competition.
I remember, in graduate school, the professor handing out exams. When the student did well on the exam, he would say (in front of everybody) good job. When the person bombed the exam he wouldn’t say anything at all. I was one that bombed exams, and I was totally traumatized. I was 25 years old – an adult (and still am traumatized 13 years later). What are we doing to K-6 graders?
Really. Positivity goes a long way.
Where does it all end? You need competition in order to make your kids sit in their chairs and be respectful?
Come on now.
I am of the opinion that you cannot get anywhere in this world alone. You need to be able to collaborate – work cooperatively. So, why aren’t we teaching our children these things? It’s certainly not the schools job. Kids should know how to cooperate with others (and be respectful) before they go to school. It’s our job as parents to teach them. They then can go on to be positive role models for their peers and teachers.
Let’s think about this logically. Can teachers effectively work without others around them to bounce ideas off of? What about doctors? Do you think they can help a patient without others to collaborate with? What about Mothers? Do you think you can effectively parent your child without the advice from others around you?
Does one person really know it all?
I am all for healthy competition. You play soccer, you compete. Tennis – yes, you compete. Who gets the answers first in a math class? or who does the best on a test? Or who is the most quiet or answers the most questions in Church? No, no, and no. Unhealthy.
Shouldn’t kids learn respect, just because it’s good to be nice? Why does there need to be a prize for the kid in the first chair?
Why can’t we celebrate everyone or no one?
Can someone please explain this to me because I can’t wrap my tiny brain around it.
Thanks to www.cooperationcommons.org for the lovely picture!