Giveaway – Call Me Clarice, I Don’t Care – A Message In Diversity

Welcome to the July 2013 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Learning About Diversity

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how they teach their children to embrace and respect the variety of people and cultures that surround us. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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Man, I wish I was Black, then I wouldn’t have to work so hard to get to the same place.

~Random Brown University Professor in the Program of Cancer Biology (circa 2004/2005)

Talk about backlash from Affirmative Action.  Sheesh.  Way to go!

Not.

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It doesn’t matter how smart you are or how much you have accomplished, the importance of teaching diversity is essential.  More essential than going outside and exploring nature, mathematics, reading, dictation or recitation.  Diversity is all around us.  black/white, man/woman, gay/straight, mental disorders/physiological disorders, etc. If you have a problem with it, in this day and age, you are going to have a tough time.

I have been fretting for a few weeks – how I was going to approach this subject – being a person an African American within a rather homogeneous group of Stay at Home Mom’s.  I worry about what’s going to come out of all of this.  Don’t know why, but I do.  Not sure if I will be able to read more than one or two.

I have decided that  I’m going to approach the topic through a group of “living stories”.

 

My First Experience

When I was 8, I was taking the bus to a friend’s house.   I was either waiting for the bus, or had just gotten off – I don’t remember that detail, but a car passed and a man held up his middle finger and yelled Nigger.

I sort of looked at him stunned.  Certainly he wasn’t talking to me.  I was well assimilated into American Society with the straight perfect hair and nicely pressed clothes.  Actually, I wasn’t exactly sure what he said, and certainly he  wasn’t talking to me. I didn’t understand then what I understand now.

This life changing experience pops into my mind now and again.  I was recently thinking about it a few weeks ago – and I just felt sorry for that man.  It’s so sad that the human condition seems to be one that to bring one up – you must put another one down.  He must have been so sad and confused.

This happened 30 or so years ago (I refuse to date myself).  He’s possibly dead by now – or just ancient.  The problem is that the bigotry doesn’t die with the bigot.  It lives on through the children. That is the most heart wrenching part.  The innocents are taught the hate – unknowingly – through the parents.

We Are The Diversity

I was raised in Minnesota – The Scandinavian capital of the world.  I lived in all white neighborhoods while growing up.  I went to smith and Brown – largely white, influential campuses.  I live in a largely white blue collar neighborhood and attend the LDS Church – which is largely white.  You see where this is going, right?

Being an African American woman, I am the diversity that we are talking about.

Just last year (2012), my kids were playing with the family down the street.   The  Mother of the children was telling me how she went back home to visit family in LA.  She complained that her old neighborhood was ruined.  She commented that the Chinese moved in – and nobody took care of their yards – you know, like white people.

I just looked at her like she was crazy (I have a good way of doing that.  It would drive my bosses crazy when I had the 9-5 job).

Just another example of a blatant lack of education.  Like the man above, I felt sorry for her, but more – I felt sorry for her children.  Again, the children are being taught these types of ideas.

Scary and unacceptable.

I don’t want to use my children as the model  “black” children and I didn’t want to be the model black family who cuts their grass – so  I consciously made the decision to not allow the children to play together anymore.   I refuse to expose them to such small mindedness – even if that means they don’t have a friend.

 

Diversity is learning by Example

The only way to learn about diversity is through example.  It’s not the school’s job to teach diversity.  The schools primary job, in my opinion, is to teach kids to spit back facts on a test (to make the school look good).  It’s too late if your child has not learned to accept and respect differences if they have not learned by the time they start formal schooling.

A Parent Is A Child’s First Teacher.

Children Emulate Their Parents and Look Up to them as Role Models

 

Children learn from their parents uncritically.  How are the parents treating others.  How do the parents talk about and with others?   It’s our responsibility to raise worldly and respectful children.

 

Diversity is Not All Black and White

It happens in education, stature, economic status, gender – even in the Boy scouts – it’s all around us.

My son attended a Cub Scout Day Camp this summer.   One of the boys from another den had some sort of disability.  My son questioned his den leader and asked what was wrong.  Our den leader responded and said that his brain wasn’t functioning.

So, of course my son runs around spouting off that the little boy’s brain isn’t functioning.

His brain wasn’t functioning?  When someone’s brain is not functioning – it’s called death.  You cannot have a non-functioning brain in a person who is up and moving, breathing and talking.  Not only was the boy’s brain functioning, it was functioning at a superiorly high level.  He was incredibly gifted.  He just had some challenges that the other boys didn’t have.

I had to explain this to my son – hopefully teaching him that just because someone has challenges doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with them or their bodily functions.  They are still a living, breathing ,and  feeling individual – who deserves the same amount of respect as anyone else.

 

How do I Teach My Children Diversity?

Mostly, I teach them to respect everyone by providing them a good example.  I respect everyone.  I talk to everyone.  I respect other faiths, cultures, ideas and visions.

During Passover, we made Seder Placemats and had a Seder Meal.  We studied the Passover and what all the traditions mean.  You can read about our learning here.  Even though we are not Jewish, I think it’s important to understand and respect the beliefs of others – even if they are not our own.

We are doing a unit in world music, where we will listen to music and do crafts from cultures around the world.  Again, to learn about and respect the cultures and beliefs of others.

We have talked extensively about the standards of our church – and how not everyone follows those standards.  Just because someone is having a drink, or smoking, or whatever – doesn’t make them a bad person.

I think it helps for them to see me treating everyone equally – whether or not they have the same standards, beliefs, skin color, etc.  Living “Love One Another” is believing in “Love One Another”.  I firmly believe it’s the best teaching method.

However, we still have to deal in this world of ours – that is not always equal.

I teach my children that they have to do more, get up earlier, stay up later and work harder. For them, laziness is not an option.  It’s just the way the world is.

 

Adults Need Teaching Too!

The professor up above, the guy in the car – myself.  We all need teaching and further learning.

My Mother bought the kids a book a 3-4 years ago that I adore.  It’s called the Skin I live In.  I love that they celebrate the beauty of all of us – in all of our glorious differences.

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Since this is one  my all time favorite books,  I wanted to share a copy with one of you.

Please enter the rafflecopter below to be entered to win your own, brand new, copy of The Skin You Live In.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be updated by afternoon July 9 with all the carnival links.)

  • A gift for my daugther — Amanda, a special education teacher for students with multiple exceptionalities, discusses at My Life in a Nutshell how she will enrich her daughter’s life by educating her the amazing gifts her students will bring to the world.
  • The Beauty in Our Differences — Meegs at A New Day writes about her discussions with her daughter about how accepting ourselves and those around us, with all our beautiful differences and similarities, makes the world a better place.
  • Accepting Acceptance and Tolerating Tolerance — Destany at They Are All of Me examines the origins of and reasons behind present day social conformity.
  • Differencessustainablemum discusses what she feels to be the important skills for embracing diversity in her family home.
  • Turning Japanese — Erin Yuki at And Now, for Something Completely Different shares how she teaches her kiddos about Japanese culture, and offers ideas about “semi immersion” language learning.
  • Celebrating Diversity at the International House Cottages — Mommy at Playing for Peace discovers the cultures of the world with her family at local cultural festivals
  • Learning About Diversity by Honoring Your Child’s Multiple Heritages — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama looks at the importance of truly knowing your roots and heritage and how to help children honor their multiple heritages.
  • People. PEOPLE! — Kellie at Our Mindful Life is trying to teach her children to use language that reflects respect for others, even when their language doesn’t seem to them to be disrespectful.
  • Call Me Clarice, I Don’t Care – A True Message in Diversity — Lisa at The Squishable Baby knows that learning to understand others produces empathetic children and empathetic families.
  • Diversity of Families — Family can be much more then a blood relation. Jana at Jananas on why friends are so important for her little family of three.
  • Diverse Thoughts Tamed by Mutual Respect — Amy at Me, Mothering, and Making it All Work thinks that diversity is indispensable to our vitality, but that all of our many differences require a different sort of perspective, one led by compassion and mutual respect.
  • Just Shut Up! — At Old New Legacy, Becky gives a few poignant examples in her life when listening, communication and friendship have helped her become more accepting of diversity.
  • The World is our Oyster — Mercedes at Project Procrastinot is thankful for the experiences that an expat lifestyle will provide for herself as well as for her children.
  • Children’s black & white views (no pun intended … kind of) — Lauren at Hobo Mama wonders how to guide her kids past a childish me vs. them view of the world without shutting down useful conversation.
  • Raising White Kids in a Multicultural World — Leanna at All Done Monkey offers her two cents on how to raise white children to be self-confident, contributing members of a colorful world. Unity in diversity, anyone?
  • Ramadan Star and Moon Craft — Celebrate Ramadan with this star and moon craft from Stephanie at InCultureParent, made out of recycled materials, including your kid’s art!
  • Race Matters: Discussing History, Discrimination, and Prejudice with Children — At Living Peacefully with Children, Mandy discusses how her family deals with the discrimination against others and how she and her husband are raising children who are making a difference.
  • The Difference is Me – Living as the Rainbow Generation — Terri at Child of the Nature Isle, guest posting at Natural Parents Network, is used to being the odd-one-out, but walking an alternative path with children means digging deeper, answering lots of questions and opening to more love.
  • My daughter will only know same-sex marriage as normal — Doña at Nurtured Mama realizes that the recent Supreme Court rulings on same-sex marriage will change the way she talks to her daughter about her own past.
  • Montessori-Inspired Respect for Diversity — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells about her multicultural family and shares Montessori-inspired ideas for encouraging respect for diversity.
  • EveryDay Diversity — Ana at Panda & Ananaso makes diversity a part of everyday living, focusing on raising of compassionate and respectful child.
  • Diversity as Part of Life — Even though Laura at Authentic Parenting thought she had diversity covered, she found out that some things are hard to control.
  • Inequity and Privilege — Jona is unpacking questions raised by a summit addressing inequity in breastfeeding support at Life, Intertwined.
  • 3 Ways to Teach Young Children About Diversity — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama recognizes her family’s place of privilege and shares how she is teaching her little ones about diversity in their suburban community.
  • Teaching diversity: tales from public school — A former public high school teacher and current public school parent, Jessica at Crunchy-Chewy Mama values living in a diverse community.
  • 30 Ideas to Encourage Learning about Diversity While Traveling — Traveling with kids can bring any subject alive. Dionna at Code Name: Mama has come up with a variety of ways you can incorporate diversity education into your family travels (regardless of whether you homeschool). From couch surfing to transformative reading, celebrate diversity on your next trip!
  • Diversity, huh? — Jorje of Momma Jorje doesn’t do anything BIG to teach about diversity; it’s more about the little things.
  • Chosen and Loved — From Laura at Pug in the Kitchen: Color doesn’t matter. Ethnicity doesn’t matter. Love matters.
  • The One With The Bright Skin — Stefanie at Very Very Fine tries to recover from a graceless response to her son’s apparent prejudice.
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  1. Thank you for this post. Kuddos to you for sticking up for your beliefs and not exposing your children to bigotry. I grew up in a household where my mom would sometimes say similar things and as an adult it is hard to get rid of that whisper of a voice! It takes clear, conscious effort to attempt to reverse the effects.
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  2. Really interesting post — thank you! It must be a challenge to be “the diversity” and feel like you’re held up (and your children, too) as an example for a whole group.

    I definitely agree that parents need to be doing the modeling and teaching and talking (frequently) about diversity. What’s weird, though, is that my parents are kind of bigoted, but I think I turned out less so. Maybe a generational thing, but then where did I learn that? Probably school, or my peers, I’d suppose. So I do have hope that my kids can surpass even my understanding or tolerance, you know? I think what I’ll try for is talking & guiding as much as I can, but also exposing them to others who can guide them as well.
    Lauren recently posted…Children’s black & white views (no pun intended … kind of)My Profile

    • Hey Lauren,

      Thanks for stopping by!

      It’s just one of those things you know. It’s about families improving and moving upward. When i typed it, I didn’t much think about it more than it’s a part of life.

      thank goodness that you formed your own ideas. It’s not like it’s all one group of people being the bigots. I have them in my family as well. Like anything that I don’t think is right, sometimes I find myself pushing the other way – to an extreme. It’s like, I’m going to go in the total opposite direction because I don’t like the way this person is thinking – and it needs to change now.

      The change must start somewhere. It really has to!

      Thanks so much for your comments! I hope you have a terrific week.
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  3. meegan whitford says:

    we let them watch all different shows and if they make a comment or ask a question then we talk about it

  4. I agree, so sad when you see or hear kids pronouncing bigoted words they can hardly spell due to what they are hearing the parents say…my kiddos are mixed and I hope they marry and have all mixed race friends of every assortment and I know they will cause i will help them understand about everyone’s heritage….I think it is important to point out peoples differences rather than just say we are all the same- that way they have knowledge of someone being “Hispanic” rather than what most people choose to say “Mexican” or teach them that people are Asian, not oriental- hope this makes sense
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  5. Great post, and great giveaway. I’ve only had brief experiences with being the diversity, but I try to remind myself of them frequently. Its a good way to remember that it is all about the individual; there are “good people” and “bad people” in every culture, race, creed, etc… so judging by any of those without knowing the individual is faulty. You are a great example for your children.
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  6. Lisa, what an amazing post. Thank you for sharing both stories- from your childhood and from college. The ignorance is horrifying. And you are right the bigotry doesn’t die with person it lives on and that is why there is still so much ignorance, hate and stupidity in this country. Thank you so much for this. I hope I can be successful in teaching my daughter about diversity and being open minded and respectful. I am going to promote this post like crazy!
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  7. love this post….my eyes are watering. I am a firm believer that I MUST model for my son how to be a good adult. How to stand up for himself respectfully, how to treat others well but not be taken advantage of, how to be a kind person and respect all religions, cultures, and families. Some of my inlaws can be a racist or condone racism and it angers me, I don’t want my son to be around that. One day they were talking with their friends (at their house for a party) in front of my playing son they said they can’t stand a certain school because of all the blacks. I loudly told Anthony to come with me now, when asked what was wrong, I said I didn’t want him to be around that type of talk.

    We are lucky that we send son to a multicultural daycare, where each teacher (five so far) has been from a different culture, only now he has a caucasian teacher. To him are people are all different colors, have different speech patterns, celebrate different things, and have different families. To him that is normal and I love it.

    I teach him to trust his instincts and go with his gut. I wouldn’t get into an elevator with ANY man alone or let a stranger help me with my car if I felt something was off. Evil comes in all shapes, sixes, sexes, religions, and races. I want my son to know God and trust his faith, but not be blinded by it. I want him to know evil is committed by those who use religion as an excuse or have evil in their hearts.

    I can honestly and proudly say I will be happy with whomever my brings home, as long as that person treats him respectfully and is NOT a racist, sexist, or thinks like an old, white, republican man, LOL

    sorry my rant is voer now, LOL
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    • Haha! Karen, your post made me smile.

      I love it!

      It’s so nice to have diversity all around you. I remember when I was at Smith in a intro bio class. It was a class of maybe 100 or so students. It was in one of those big auditorium places. We were talking about genetics, and this woman – I will never forget it- said she had never seen a black person in real life. Just on TV.

      Boy, must she had a skewed view. Black people are portrayed as clowns or criminals. She thought we were a different species.

      She was from Vermont.

      Poo on her parents. College? Really? I was thunder struck (one of my husband’s words).

      You are doing a wonderful thing – cause in reality – we have to live with and among a wide variety of people – even old man thinking Republicans!

      I hope you are having a wonderful night!
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  8. This is quite the post! I absolutely loved it – the raw perspective. The insight from the trenches if you will.

    I post a lot about how we teach our children through how we, the parents, live our lives. They soak up every word we say, every glance we throw, every gesture we make. The develop their own concept of whose who in the world simply by watching the adults around them.

    I agree with you that I feel sorry for people who are still stuck in a world of color and nationality. Living in California I have seen, heard, and felt it all. As a “white” looking mother with a “black” husband and a mixed race child, we are often the brunt of mis-education and hate. But my job right now, in all of that, it to instill a confidence in my child about who she is so that she can take on the world around her!

    Love that book by the way. An absolute favorite around here!
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  9. Great post! You are so right that we need to teach our children about all kinds of diversity and to be accepting of all people. Sometimes we are so focused on black and white that we forget the many other forms of prejudice.

    It must be quite a burden to be a “model black family” in mostly homogenous communities (including our online communities!) I remember reading a study years ago of African-American students who consistently performed better on standardized tests when they didn’t have to declare their race. The theory was that when they had to state their race on the test, they felt added pressure and so didn’t perform as well as when they could just take the test as an individual.

    Thanks for your post and your giveaway!
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  10. I try to explain the best I can why someone’s skin is a different color or why they may be in a wheel chair. I’ve noticed my children don’t really need long winded explanations. It actually makes you a better person, less judgmental of a person, because you never know who’s little ears are listening.
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  11. My most recent brush with diversity involves body size/shape acceptance. My son and mom were talking about being on the bed, and my son said something to the effect of “grandma takes up the most room, because she’s fat.” We had a long talk about how the world needs people of all shapes and sizes and colors etc. We talked about how words can affect people. We talked about it is important to base friendships on a person’s character, and not their appearance. It’s a work in progress.

    I appreciate you sharing your experiences with us for the Carnival. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to be the example for a group of people. I am thankful that you chose to share with us today.
    Dionna recently posted…30 Ideas to Encourage Learning about Diversity While TravelingMy Profile

    • WOW, thank you so much for sharing your story.

      Yes, size/shape is definitely a BIG one (no pun intended). I know I have a story for everything – but I have a really important story in this regard.

      My Mother got pretty sick pretty fast. She came here to take care of the kids and she had tingling and numbness in her legs. By mid-summer she was falling over. By the end of the summer, she couldn’t walk at all. She self diagnosed herself with Neuropathy, and the doctors just took it for what she said. They never perfomed any neurological tests. They kept testing her for Diabetes. Like over and over. Like a big black woman couldn’t have anything else wrong. Even though the tests came out negative.

      There was no preventive care. No following up. They wouldn’t even call her back when she had questions or concerns.

      With this numbness, she also had problems going to the bathroom. So they sent her to a proctologist. He said he couldn’t examine her because there was no one to lift her up on the table – since she couldn’t get up herself. Can you believe that? He just gave her like a laxative and sent her on her way.

      When she talked to me, she felt the discrimination and lack of care was directly due to her weight. She ended her life feeling defeated, unwanted, unimportant – and a total drain on everyone and everything. She felt she didn’t even matter.

      It’s awful what people do to others because they do not reach a standard or look how they are “supposed” to look.

      I really want to thank you for your comment. Nip it in the bud right away! Yep Yep Yeppers!
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      • Gah. That breaks my heart :( I’ve had to reexamine a lot of my own biases about size and shape. I was raised (like many of us are) to believe that overeating = overweight, but my worldview has expanded. I hope my kids will be more accepting than many of our generation are.
        Dionna recently posted…30 Ideas to Encourage Learning about Diversity While TravelingMy Profile

      • Yeah. You know, I could have written this post a thousand ways. Unfortunately it’s seems like it’s the human condition to look down upon others for something or another. If it’s not color, it’s size. If it’s not size, it’s the number of degrees you have. If it’s not that, it’s the amount of money you have. It goes on and on and on forever and ever.

        Pretty sad.

        It seems that we as humans need this in order to make our lives have more meaning. To make us feel more special about ourselves.

        It’s hard…it really is. I think we need to help our children to be empathetic in general – you know. It’s not going to erase all things – but it helps them and us to be more mindful of others.

        I want to thank you for your comment Dionna. I really enjoy participating in these carnivals. It seems like each month, I come out a more knowledgeable and aware person. Everyone makes me think very deeply.
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      • I always learn something as well, that’s why we keep on hosting them :)
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  12. I was one of 2 tan kids in my elementary school. I remember thinking me (american mexican) and Zeke (african american) just had better tans then my classmates. I love how oblivious I was as a child. I experienced no true racism in my community yet we were the only Mexican family for miles! It wasn’t until jr high that I felt different. I was invited to friends houses for holidays. Turkey for Christmas? We always had tamales! Ham for New Years. Posole’s on at our house! Outside of holiday traditions, I felt like I fit right in. No one treated me different as a dark skinned girl.
    Fast forward to 2013 and my husband is Korean/Irish which makes our DD a little mix. I can’t wait to share holiday traditions from all over the world with her. I don’t want her to be confused about her background or anyone elses. We’ll have so much fun together learning about our beautifully diverse nation!
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    • I love this post. I am constantly testing myself and trying to look at people in a different way. It’s so easy to judge someone quickly and determine who they are especially when as a lawyer you’re trained to analyze and make a quick decision. Chimamanda Adichie’s Ted talk about “the danger of a single story” explains what I am trying to say better. Please look it up, I think you’ll enjoy it. What we let shape our worldview ultimately will shape our children’s worldview. I want my daughter to grow up appreciating her differences and loving her friends for theirs. If everyone was the same color, religion, ethnicity, etc., the world would be a pretty boring place!
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  13. Your post describes for me how we have not changed as a society with prejudice. It is everywhere and the number of prejudices are growing all the time. It makes me sad but also makes me realise just how important it is that I strive hard to ensure that my children are not prejudiced and feel confident not only to treat everyone as the individual that they are but that they stick up for those that are victims of others ignorance and hatred.

    • Wonderful!

      You said something very interesting on Hobo Mama’ blog. It hit me – and I have been thinking about it about ever since. You said something about the discrimination against our children is something that nobody addresses.

      I found that statement to be quite poignant. You said it so eloquently – it was a wow moment for me.

      It was very true. Parents talk to their children like they don’t matter – like they are not real people.

      Thank you for bringing that up. I think it’s something that needs to be talked about.
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  14. Viv Sluys says:

    We try to teach about diversity through doing studies of different countries and cultures. Somedays we have had talks about all people being created by God and being the same on the inside. We have pointed out differences within our own family; some of us are blonde, some brunettes, some curly haired some straight haired some tall, some short etc. My daughters have friends who are Native, Chinese, Haitian and Korean. We are fortunate that, even though we live in a small town we have many different backgrounds of people.

    • Viv,

      That is wonderful! You also brought up a great point. Who know you makes a big difference. I think I have told the story about the woman from Vermont who was I meant in college. Yes College. She had never ever seen a black person. Can you believe that?

      All she knew was TV – which is sad. If you were to look at the news and movies, you would think all African Americans were either criminals or comics. That day, we had to tell her that African Americans were actually of the same species as Caucasians.

      Till this day – 15 years later, I still can’t believe that. I was thunderstruck.
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  15. This was an amazing carnival topic.

    You definitely have the right approach by teaching your children to respect everyone. God has no respect of person. Meaning He will use whom ever He chooses, black-white, slave-free, Gentile-Jew, female-male, child-adult. He is also not a God of confusion.

    Yes in most cases it is ignorance (the lack of knowing) right from wrong. And in majority of those cases you’ll find that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. They were taught to respect or disrespect from observing their parents.
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  16. By teaching them about different cultures.

  17. Hello again, I enjoyed your point. As a diversity person myself I find that I teach my children similiar points as you mentioned. I have been treated unfairly as well. Sometimes its hard to tell if it is because of the “race card” as I like to call it. But God prevails over all…
    Thanks for sharing!
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  18. Excellent points. Children do learn from their parents, but they also learn from other influences in their society. Our children have friends from all sorts of backgrounds and they think nothing of it. Perhaps it’s because they themselves have a fairly diverse background…respecting others for their differences is something we try to stress in our home.
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  19. I love this! Thanks so much for such a wonderful post! I find myself as I get older, simply disliking and feeling sadness for others’ behavior and attitudes, nothing else comes into the decision at all. And it is sad to see that it is across the land from the wealthiest to the poorest, the faithful and the unfaithful. I hope for a change for the future.
    Have a wonderful week!
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  20. I love this post and am appalled at the small mindedness of the den leader saying the little boy’s brain wasn’t functioning! We are an ethnically diverse family. My family is from India and my husband’s is Hispanic. In the Indian culture, kids call their parent’s friends “auntie” and “uncle” as a sign of respect. As a result, my kids have many aunts and uncles from other cultures which confused them at first why one of their uncles is Chinese but as we’ve explained it to them I hope it helps them learn to look past race and embrace people of many nationalities.
    Tanya recently posted…Book Review: I Just Want to Pee Alone by Various Mom BloggersMy Profile

    • WOW, my husband must be Indian. Ha! I think they have that same custom in the South. I didn’t understand it either. My husband has uncles and cousins he’s not related to. It’s sort of difficult figuring out – are they really related or not.

      I would also be angry if someone said my brain wasn’t functioning as well. I think we need to be more mindful about what we say. We need to teach children the right things.

      Thanks so much for stopping by Tanya! I enjoyed your comments!
      Lisa recently posted…Homeschool at The Squishable Baby – Homeschool Link-UpMy Profile

  21. I can see now how this could’ve been a tough post to write. I think you did a great job through storytelling. Too bad I visited too late for the book giveaway ;( Thanks for linking up with me at the Mommy-Brain Mixer!
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