Homeschool and Socialization

Homeschool and Socialization

Today I am honored to be over at Unschooling Mommas site where I am talking about Homeschooling How To’s.

Since I love to talk homeschooling – I wanted to create a sister post on homeschooling and socialization.

I remember meeting someone two years ago (roughly).  They had kids. They commented…Wow, I can’t believe that your kids are so social.  You would think, cause they are homeschooled, that they wouldn’t be able to play and interact with other kids.

Blank stare.


Surprisingly, socialization is a big topic for those thinking about homeschooling – at least that is what I have experienced.  When people ask me about homeschooling, the social aspect is usually the first question I receive.  I don’t know why, but it surprises me that the biggest concern is socialization – not how do you pick the curriculum, or how do you handle being with 3 kids 18 hours a day/7 days a week for months on end, or how they learn to take a standardized test, or even, how you get them to do their work.  It’s always – how are the kids going to become properly socialized.

As we all know, kids are properly socialized in public school, right?


I know I am in the minority, but it’s my thinking that school is not for socializing – it’s for learning.  That’s the number one goal when your child goes to school, is it not?

So, when  I get the socialization question (which I always do) I turn around and ask them that question.  I am always interested in hearing the answer.  Typically, I get blank stare.

Then I stare at them back and ask…

Well, how do your kids get socialized?


So, here are some ways my homeschooled kids get socialized

  1. Violin
  2. Soccer (or any other team sport)
  3. Karate
  4. The gym
  5. Church friends
  6. Homeschool Co-op friends
  7. Friends that they meet on the playground or on the street or in the store, or wherever we happen to be.

Amazingly, my kids are very social and will talk to any other child – if the other child is receptive.  It will not matter the age, gender, skin color, or size.  They will talk to and love anyone.  Hadyn – my 8 year old son, loves to play with 4 year old girls, 10 year old girls, 3 year old boys and 12 year old boys.  He will even play with everyone together.  He even plays basketball with a 16 year old boy down the street.  He recognizes good people and is open talking to them and getting to know them.  Ava will also play with boys or girls, and is very adaptive with what she plays.  She can play barbies, dolls, with trucks – whatever.

Not surprisingly, we do much of the same things that all parents do to socialize our/their kids.

  1. We invite kids to birthday parties.
  2. We accept invitations to others’ birthday parties
  3. We accept invitations to cookouts, etc.
  4. We invite people to cookouts, etc.
  5. I coordinate play dates with other kids
  6. I reach out to other homeschool families and invite them to do art projects and such with us.
  7. We go on field trips (well not much this year cause of the baby) with the co-op group.

The major difference is that they just don’t socialize while they are at school – except with each other.

Homeschooling is a bit more work-understandably.  You have to search out the right curriculum match for your children, you have to plan the lessons, and  you are solely responsible for the education of your own children – but it’s good positive work.

Finding good positive social activities for my kids have just not been a major stumbling block.  In my experience with the kids we know – The kids are far from anti-social.  They are kind and play well in groups.

Here are some fun articles on the subject (Thanks Cool Mom!)

  1. No Thank You, We Don’t Believe in Socialization
  2. Homeschooling and the Myth of Socialization

What do you think?  whether you homeschool or not, do you find it difficult to socialize your kids?  What resources have you used to find social activities?


About Lisa

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  1. Great post, Lisa!Why people ask this question is beyond me. I try to laugh now but it still is a tad annoying. Typically I am asked about my child being socialized when my child is out and about. The best was, just recently, while she was running her own craft booth and speaking in front of a large group and I was STILL asked the question. I don’t get it… but maybe it is just the only thing they can think of from the stereotypical homeschooling ideas of families. I have a link to share that is my most favorite article about homeschooling socialization but I can’t post it here. I’ll email it to you. Enjoy!
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  2. I agree with you, that school is not the place to learn social skills!
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