Being Realistic about your Health and Fitness Goals in the New Year


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This post is not meant to discourage.  Just the opposite actually.  Knowing what you are getting into, and setting realistic attainable goals is empowering.

I think the most disheartening thing about health and fitness is that it’s hard.  It’s hard to lose weight, even harder if you have a lot to lose, and even harder if you can’t lose it and don’t know why.  Is it mental or physical?  It’s hard to get definition.  It’s’ hard losing those last 5-10 lbs. 

It’s just hard.

It’s really hard.

I recently came across an article entitled, How Six-Pack Nutrition is a Different Beast Than Fitness NutritionIt got me thinking.

Telling someone that they can have 6-pack abs, eat junk 20% of the time, and have a piece of cheesecake each week – is setting them up to fail.  Yes, if you tell someone who they can cheat and have cheesecake, they will most likely work with you.  I get it.  It’s the American way. 

We want what we want, and we don’t want to put forth the effort necessary to obtain it.

To get the money and clients, fitness experts feed into that need for less work, all the results.

Unfortunately, it’s not the way it works.

It’s about what they are not telling you.  Many of the “experts” don’t even consume the supplements that they advertise and are making money from.




It takes time and patience

In our smart phone driven/fastest internet possible American society, patience is not a prevalent trait (tried to put that as mildly as possible).  Losing weight/getting ripped takes a great deal of detailed effort, time, energy, tracking, and patience.  You have to know what and how much you eat and take the time to see how it all effects your body.  You have to take measurements, track your weight, weigh and measure your food, buy foods that are nutritious (which often means more money) and train eat in a way that makes sense to reach your goals – EVERYDAY.

Even on Saturday and Sunday.


It goes against all of the societal norms.  It’s hard to go out to a fast food joint, and abstain from eating – exchanging it for chicken breast when you get home.  It’s hard resisting all the treats at holiday time.  It’s hard telling people no.

Hard but not impossible.

And it gets easier with practice.  But you have to just jump in and start.


Ideas for staying healthy in difficult situations.

We all need help when we start.  I have done this so many times, I don’t even think about it anymore.  I have done/said all of these.


Bring homemade chips/crackers to restaurants

Bring your own homemade salad dressing

Stick to salads with meat – leave the bread (pita, naan, etc.) at all costs

Skip the appetizers – especially the soup. 

Salsa as a dressing works really well at Mexican restaurants

Fast – just stop eating for a period of time everyday

Ask the waiter/waitress to pack up half the meal right away.


What to say when people ask/push back

I’m making myself and body my priority.

I have decided to cut back on ________

I am not eating sweets now.

I’m fasting until 5. – this is a good one.  I have used this to get out of a lot of sticky situations of why I am not eating the sugar laden foods that they are trying to stuff down my throat.

If you must snack, stick to the low carb veggies and fruits: cucumber, broccoli, and cauliflower, raspberries, strawberries, blueberries and blackberries.  Leave the carrots, apples, oranges, grapes, and any and all  dipping sauce (especially if it says fat-free).

Bring food that is safe for you to eat and share!  If you don’t tell them it’s healthy, they will never know.


Other tips

Just because it’s not fried doesn’t mean it’s good for you.  Chick-Fil-A isn’t appropriate (or ever appropriate in my opinion, but that has more to do with politics than food).  Besides the chicken being totally nasty (again my opinion), having it on bread with waffle fries – regardless whether it’s baked or fried, isn’t healthy.  Home cooked meals are far superior to eating out.  Almost all of the food you consume should be cooked at home.  I eat out once every 3-4 months, and only for a special occasion.  If it’s not special, I don’t eat.  I order Perrier and enjoy the company.

Be confident about your choices, what you want, and what’s in your best interests.  This is about you.  It’s not about making others feel comfortable.  Once you understand that, getting to your goal will be easier.


Take it one step at a time

There is no rush.  Make mini-goals and celebrate when you reach them (with non-food rewards).  For example, one of my goals was to weigh less than my husband (which made sense when I was 200 lbs, and wanted to be less than 180).  When I got there, I gave myself a non-food reward (I got my nose ring – something that I have always wanted).

Enjoy the process.  Learn from the setbacks (as you will have some) and celebrate the successes!

Grow at every step and you will have long-term success.


Need more help?

I’m here for any questions.  Feel free to contact me.



What tips do you have to help other people overcome the roadblocks?  Please share in the comments.


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