It’s Okay to NOT Want to be fat! The most important thing to consider when changing your diet.



I’m all about choice.  Everyone has to make the right choice for them.

We live in a world where we have normalized fatness.  It’s great to be fat.  If you don’t want to be fat, there is something wrong with you.  You must have an eating or mental disorder.  You are not a good person.

It makes people uncomfortable when their fat friends makes a decision to not be fat, anymore.

I would agree that body acceptance is a good thing.  But if you’re not comfortable in your body, or it causes you mental /physical distress, or have a low image of yourself.  Or maybe you just don’t want to live as a fat person anymore, it’s okay.

It’s okay to not want to be fat, and go about your life, so that you don’t have to live that sort of lifestyle.

I remember having a conversation with my mother before she died.

She said, “Being fat is not the worst thing in the world.”

I said, “You are absolutely right.  Being fat isn’t nearly the worst thing one could be.  There are much worse things.  You could be a murderer, or a rapist; a child molester, or a pedophile; or you could even be a Trump supporter.  All those things are much worse than being fat.  And while being fat isn’t the worst thing to be, I don’t want to live my life as a fat person, anymore.”

And that’s when it happened.  I had to sy it out loud.  I didn’t want to live like a fat person anymore.

Absolutely, I don’t want to be fat, and I don’t feel bad about saying it.


Being Fat is a Choice

Being fat is a valid lifestyle choice…even if you don’t think it is.  One can choose to eat more than their body can handle, and if you do, you will get fat.  There are some with magical metabolisms, and they can seemingly eat anything and still be thin.

Good for them.  They are lucky.  Unfortunately, I am not one of those people, and if you are extremely overweight, obese or morbidly obese, you are not one of those people, either.  If you don’t want to be fat, you cannot eat so much.

It’s life.  It’s what life deals.  When life deals you a blow, you do the best you can do with it.  That’s what I think, anyway.

Health, thinness and fatness have no correlation.  You can be thin and extremely unhealthy, and overweight and extremely healthy.  It just depends upon what you are eating, whether you have a high muscle mass compared to fat percentage, and whether you exercise.

You can also be fat, and be totally fine (have good stats) and you can be thin and have high pressure and diabetes.  There is no telling.

But if you are fat, obese or morbidly obese, and you don’t want to live your life this way – then you must change.  How do you change?


Change is a choice

You don’t have to change.  Nobody is making you change…or at least I hope not.  I imagine you are here reading this because you have decided you want to change.  Here is the bad news.  In order to change, you must change.  If you do the same things that got you to where you are now, nothing will change.

Unfortunately, you don’t lose fat because you want it really badly.  You lose fat because you want it so bad, you are willing to change and change in big  (hard) ways.

As a previously morbidly obese person, I would say the number one thing you need to change,  even before you decide how you want to eat or  whether you are going to work out at home or join a gym, is the way you think about food. Food is 90% of this fat loss thing.  We live in a society where food reins big!  It controls our lives in so many ways.  We can’t do anything without everything being centered around food.

Sometimes I think ,why do we have to be eating so much?  Can’t we do anything else?



If you don’t want to rein big, you gotta figure out how to enjoy life, sans food.

Easy in theory, hard as hell in practice.

Food is all around us, and we are always celebrating.  Birthdays at work and at home, a promotion, a date night, an office outing; there are always people in our lives telling us that we have to enjoy life.  There is always an excuse for us to be stuffing 3 slices of pizza in our faces.

And there is the key.  Being able to say, I enjoy life, and I don’t have to be stuffing anything down my throat to enjoy it.  Cause at the end of the day, When you are feeling better about you, food – it won’t seem so important.  You gotta get to the point where you say, I eat to survive – and that’s all.

Once you can do it, it’s easy.  Cause then you can be at home without always being in the fridge.  You can exist with a bit, instead of 2 big pieces.  A sliver becomes enough.  And the more you do it, the more you will see the results.  The more you see the results, the more you will want it.

I have been doing this for a while.  I dropped 160 lbs and have kept it off through learning how my body responds to food.  Sometimes I purposefully over eat.  Sometimes I purposefully under eat.  Sometimes I eat just enough.

But I always keep the fact that I don’t want to ever live as a fat person in the forefront of my mind.  And that desire dictates everything that I do.
Are you ready to change?

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